My 29th wedding anniversary is this weekend! As I reflect on our commitment, I realize that there are many nuggets that may be of interest to some of you. Over the next few weeks my offering will be on lessons learned, many the hard way, over the last 35 years as a couple. This week I want to share the importance of building a couple identity. A healthy relationship requires that we strike a balance between individual identity and couple identity. If a marriage is represented by two circles within one larger circle, the wonder of it is that while each person's individuality is maintained, something greater is created by the joining of two individuals in their life-long commitment to each other. The whole is greater than the sum of the parts. Consider building your couple identity in these ways:
- spend time together talking
- develop a range of shared interests, activities and friendships
- identify yourself with your partner-talk about "us"
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